I will teach you to answer tactless questions - these phrases will stop annoying people. I will teach you to answer tactless questions - these phrases will stop annoying people Technique: Intention and prompts from Above

A gift set of iconic female phrases and typical responses to them.

Women don't always mean what they say.

#1 Do you love me?

This means: that you were a scoundrel and missed the everyday ritual of stating our love several times.
Correct answer: "My love for you is as big as the volume of the ocean compared to a bag of orange juice!"
Incorrect answer: “I already told you everything on this topic when we met, why are you asking again?”

#2 Hello, where are you?

This means: "I decided to check your schedule with the planned one and at the same time listen to see if there are unfamiliar female voices in the background." Mobile communication has changed our lives, it is to her that we owe this new type of female greeting to the everyday life.
Correct answer: “Hi, I stopped by the store to look at gifts for your parents, otherwise there are so many holidays ahead ...”
Incorrect answer: "And what?"

#3 Am I not fat?

It means: "Urgently tell me how beautiful I am." A man's assessment of his own appearance is based on the first opinion he hears and remains fairly stable until clinically proven refutation. That is, until the age of forty, a man considers himself slender and curly (as his great-aunt attested by pointing to her graduation photo) and begins to position himself as fat and bald only when the attending physician writes down “obesity” and “alopecia” in black and white on the card. Women's self-esteem changes two to three times a day and depends on regular injections of compliments.
Correct answer: "Ha ha ha! You are a reed, you have to be force-fed like a dystrophic.”
Incorrect answer: "Of course, it's hard to call you thin, but in general this is not the main thing."

#4 I can't do this...

It means: "I'm not going to have sex with you now." Which is understandable without words - it is sadly buttoned up, looking slightly guilty. You remain in overexcited bewilderment: so - how is it? How exactly can't she? You feel like an underdeveloped lustful animal, unable to understand the subtle mechanisms of female psychology. In fact, the meanings of "I can't do this" vary widely. From "on the first date" and "I'm married (you're married)" to "to the cackle of your friends from the next room" and "I have these days." You have come across a sensitive nature, which attaches great importance to such a thing as sex with you. Do not be shy, go to the end, and perhaps, unexpectedly for herself, she will be able to do so. Not this time, but the next.
Correct answer: "I understand you. Feelings are sometimes stronger than logic.
Incorrect answer: "Fine! And what am I to do now, to walk like this?”

#5 I'm pregnant!

This means that you will have to make a very important decision. Because children are a nightmare, but living a life without children is somehow boring. Now the main thing is to arrange everything so that the decision is not made without you. And one more thing: try at first to react joyfully, just like that, to increase the level of world optimism.
Correct answer:“Wow, that's great! We need to seriously discuss this."
Incorrect answer: “Is it convenient for you to have an abortion on Wednesday? I just have a discount card in our antenatal clinic.”

№6 We know too little

It means: "I'm a little afraid of you and I don't have sex at all on the first (second) date." There is such a rule. This will not affect the quality of your future relationship in any way, you just have to wait a bit. You have your own little rules too, like not showing your collection of whips and handcuffs on the first date.
Correct answer: “But it seems to me that we have known each other for a thousand years!”
Incorrect answer: "Now I'm going to the toilet, I'll be back, and it will be like a second date, okay?"

№7 buy me pads

This means that your relationship has entered a phase of trust and stability. Now you can afford garlic croutons, a raised toilet seat, and sex in socks. She will forgive.
Correct answer: “Of course, dear. What do you like - where are three drops or two drawn?
Incorrect answer: “Maybe I should go to the gynecologist instead of you?”

№8 What are you thinking about?

It means: “I'm not sure that you like me, I'm not sure if I'm good at sex, I'm completely confused and I'm not sure of anything. Besides, I'm afraid that now you will consider me a woman of easy virtue, but I'm not like that. What has already been said before.
Correct answer: (kissing the girl in a suitable place): “That we came up with a good idea. What do you think?
Incorrect answer: “Now would be a beer! Cold ... "

№9 You need to get checked

It means: “I was found to have a strange sexually transmitted disease. But which of us infected whom is a big and interesting question.” Do not be discouraged, medicine has reached such heights that, theoretically, even pregnancy can now be caught by everyday means. Incubation periods last for years, so you can both provide yourself with an alibi. And don't be surprised if they don't find anything with you - everyone, you know, has their own microflora. And be safe next time.
Correct answer: "I, of course, will check, but you are still a very windy girl for your age."
Incorrect answer: "Wait, I'll explain everything to you!"

#10 So where have you been?

This means that you will now need to say something very, very convincing. Because for the past two hours, she's been fueling her jealousy, judging the facts, and maybe even calling your friends, with whom you supposedly whiled away the time in a bar with impenetrable walls for mobile communications.
Correct answer: (after rinsing his mouth with cognac): “Darling! Juventus did screw up Parma 3:1! Are you happy? But I seem to have sowed a mobile ... "
Incorrect answer: “Am I obliged to account for my every step?”

№11 I have a headache

It means: “Today you will have to do without vaginal, oral, anal and all other types of sex with me, because I'm not in the mood. Don't even try." Although it is possible that she really just has a headache.
Correct answer: “It's the brain growing. Do you want me to find you a pill?
Incorrect answer: "It's nothing. Lie down on your stomach, your head won't feel a thing."

№12 Do you notice anything?

It means: "I tried so hard, and you, insensitive brute, did not even pay attention." Urgently examine the questioning woman from head to toe for metamorphosis. The chest is in place and has not changed in size? It doesn't mean anything yet. Try to remember some basic features of her appearance - the color and texture of her hair, the color of her eyes. There are changes? Not sure? Do not be upset, a person is not able to remember those 200-300 parameters that a woman considers the main ones in her appearance. New may be a manicure, dress or eyebrow shape. If your girlfriend suddenly began to resemble Donald, she may have increased the volume of her lips. If her eyes seem larger to you, she may have worn glasses before and now has lenses. Although it is possible that she just did a general cleaning or hung new curtains. Which should have caught my eye right away.
Correct answer: “Of course I notice, I'm not blind! So much better!”
Incorrect answer: "What should I notice? New curlers?

№13 Am I really not fat?

It means that you still haven't done enough work on this sore point. Yes, you have already compared her to concentration camp prisoners and offered her to buy things in the children's department. But this is not enough! You yourself should make a thoughtful face from time to time, squint and mutter thoughtfully: “Have you lost weight? It seems to me that you have lost weight ... You need to eat more ... "
Correct answer: "I swear on my game console, you will soon have to change your wardrobe - all these things are great for you!"
Incorrect answer: "If you ask me about it again, I will tell you the truth, and it will be scary!"

№14 Let's stay friends

It means: “I met someone more sexually interesting than you. I feel a little uncomfortable about this, and also - I feel sorry for you. Of course, you felt good with her not only in bed, but also in the movies, at the disco, on the beach. Therefore, there is a temptation to "remain friends" in order to continue a pleasant relationship. Do not give in, in the cinema, at the disco and on the beach, you will still think about sex.
Correct answer: "No no. I'm afraid you won't be able to stand it and rape me."
Incorrect answer: "Great! Let's go shopping and drink coffee and cakes together. But I still hope that you will come back to me ... "

№15 I don't know what you see in it!

It means: "I hate this painted creature and, if necessary, I will scratch out her eyes." Each male company has its own lyrical heroine, the discussion of which is the charm of the notorious male conversations. Usually this is a common colleague or former classmate. She smokes, drinks and skillfully tells obscene jokes. Easily sits on someone's lap if there are no empty seats. And even if there is ... It doesn't mean anything, it's just that she's so direct, so her own. Wives and girlfriends hate them.
Correct answer: "Nothing! She's fat, ugly and... what's the word... vulgar! By the way, you seem to have lost weight.
Incorrect answer: "Come on, she's cool!"

#16 You're a man!

This means: “I was about to do this unpleasant thing myself, when I suddenly remembered who I could blame it on.” Screw in a light bulb, hammer in a carnation, bring a potato - no one argues, it really needs strength, skill, ingenuity and other qualities that the boys absorbed in labor lessons. But there are other missions (absolutely pointless) - turn off the stove halfway, climb out onto the winter balcony for a three-liter jar, rummage through the beach in search of a hairpin - which, from a female point of view, only titans can do. Attempts to discuss these missions in terms of the laws of physics and logic are regarded as ungentlemanly. You are a man! So do not argue, but rather take an umbrella and bring a powder box from the car.
Correct answer: “Of course, dear! Ah, your sweet distraction!”
Incorrect answer: "I can't, I already painted my nails."

#17 Am I disturbing you?!

It means: “I don't want you to change the subject immediately. And it is desirable that they never return to her again with me, and especially without me. In the presence of girls, men's conversations become especially exciting - where to go on vacation? where to buy bathroom furniture? Is Japanese food healthy? But it happens, word for word, the conversation moves off somewhere in the wrong place. Holidays, hot countries, Thai people can do this... Built-in appliances, Petrovich, by the way, installed a video camera in the bathroom, and when prostitutes come... Speaking of Japanese cuisine, remember that waitress from the Hiroshima restaurant? and feel uncomfortable.
Correct answer: "Sorry, dear! Gennady, stop talking nonsense! So, from the point of view of the “price-quality” ratio, German mixers ... "
Incorrect answer: "Ha ha ha! Dear, close your ears, I want to finish the thought.

№18 Do you remember what day it is?

This means: “I waited half a day for congratulations and flowers, they were not. I looked at your non-holiday face, and a terrible guess entered my head ... ”Remember quickly. If today is her birthday, your anniversary, March 8 or February 14, you can still get out. Pretend that you have been preparing a surprise all day, and blow for gifts. If today is a holiday of a smaller caliber (for example, 1000 days from the beginning of your sexual life), then you could well, as a confused workaholic, forget about it.
Correct answer: "Of course I remember. But do you remember? Come on, tell me."
Incorrect answer: "Tuesday".

№19 I just wondered what would happen next

It means: "Are you thinking of marrying me or what?" The first year is the most enjoyable. Vacation, New Year, flu epidemic - everything is like the first time. Then repetitions begin, and the girl thinks about the future. How long can you "just date"? You grow up, she gets old. Not ready to get married? Introduce her to relatives, write out a power of attorney for the car, make duplicate keys - in short, take steps towards the final rapprochement, play for time.
Correct answer: “I see our future in the brightest colors. Let's go out of town for the weekend!"
Incorrect answer: "What's the point of thinking about it, we'll all die anyway!"

№20 I'm tired and I want to go home

It means: "I'm bored here, I have no one to impress here, no one notices my appliqué suede skirt, and even you don't pay attention to me!" Once in the company of unfamiliar acquaintances of your girlfriend, you can always find solace in a secluded corner with a bottle of whiskey and the catalog "BMW-2004 Model Range". Women are not so sublime and self-sufficient creatures. Bring - entertain. If you don't know how, take it away.
Correct answer: “Of course, dear, we’ll go now. By the way, meet Oksana, Misha's wife. Their baby is only two, and she has already gone to work. It's so interesting!"
Incorrect answer: "Lie down here on the couch, I'll wake you up when it's time to go home. Wait, I'll bring a towel to cover you."
Incorrect answer: "Wash it from the inside, you stupid dynamo!"

№22 You better leave your phone

This means: "I will not call, but politeness does not allow me to send you to FIG." Well, it could be worse, you could get the answering phone of the district bath. Get her out of your head, better luck next time! Especially if you shave off your mustache and change your deodorant.
Correct answer: "Write it down. Most likely, my butler will pick up the phone, he does not speak Russian, but he understands everything.
Incorrect answer: "Are you sure you'll call?"

№23 I understand everything

It means: “You are married, but this does not bother me. Don't worry, I won't bother you with calls in the evenings." Well, if you want a non-committal relationship on the side, this is your chance. Especially if the girl is over thirty, she is married and has three children. She does not need flowers - where will she put them then? She always has her passport with her - in case of a hotel. She complains about her family life, you complain about yours. She understands everything. And yes, you don't even have to have sex. Romance!
The correct answer is: “Understanding is your most valuable quality.”
Incorrect answer: “Could you use the same perfume as my wife?”

№24 Do you tell all the girls this?

This means: “I don’t believe in romantics with such an impudent mug!” Reading magazines was not in vain for you: you know what words to strike a spark of excitement even from a stone woman's heart. I love cooking, kung fu, children and dogs. You have a graceful neck, let's go to my place, let's read Pasternak aloud... He doesn't believe me. Weird. Try to look her in the eyes next time, think about something sad and high (for example, about the presidential rating) and put carnations in your shoe - all these measures will give your lustful image the right amount of contradictory trepidation. Which in the twilight can be mistaken for sincerity. Yes, and take that pack of condoms out of your breast pocket.
Correct Answer: Close your eyes and lie down. Now I will try to give you artificial respiration. Incorrect answer: “Me too… Where is the toilet here…?”

In public speaking, two things scare the most: the first is the beginning of the speech itself, the second is the ending and subsequent questions from the audience. And if you can prepare for the first one, then it is almost impossible to predict all the questions. Yuri Borisov, a teacher of the public speaking course, tells how not to lose confidence and answer convincingly even to those for which you don’t have an answer.

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Watch the video with numerous interviews of our politicians and you will see that no matter how carefully they prepare to communicate with journalists, the latter sometimes ask such questions, after which our leaders look like unprepared schoolchildren in a higher mathematics lesson. However, no matter how many surprises there are in questions from the audience, there are some tips that allow you to look confident and convincing at such moments.

Imagine yourself in the place of the audience. Here the speaker tells something about "spaceships plowing the expanses of our space", after which he asks a sacramental question, is everything clear to everyone and are there any questions. Probably, you really have a question for the speaker, then you will have to raise your hand right now, introduce yourself and ask something that you do not understand. Now imagine that you asked your question, prepared to listen to the answer, when suddenly the speaker decided that you had just said inappropriate stupidity, moreover, he voiced his conclusion aloud. Most likely, from this audience it is unlikely that anyone will dare to ask such a speaker at least one more question - all of a sudden, the next one who asks will be disgraced by the speaker. Hence the first conclusion: in order not to set the audience against yourself, accept the fact that even the most stupid question requires your answer.

By the way, if after your speech the audience raises their hands and asks you questions, then this is definitely good. Good, because this is evidence of the following:

The audience listened to you;
- the audience was interested in the topic of your speech;
- the audience has a desire to learn more or clarify the information received.

So, after the question has been asked, it will be right to thank the person for such an interesting, timely and relevant question. However, epithets are still one of the ways to buy time for the answer to ripen in your head if it has not appeared before.

I think you yourself know that you need to thank sincerely. If you say on duty "thank you for the question", then no one will get the feeling from such a phrase that it is really very important for you to give an answer to this particular audience.

But what to do if the answer has not matured in your head?

You are not an encyclopedia. When you go out in front of an audience and convey your point of view, this does not mean that you must know everything. However, the phrase "I don't know" is not worth saying. If you do not know the answer, but you want to look beautiful, then there are several options for how to do this.
For example, you can say that this is a very interesting topic and you planned to cover it in more detail in your next separate speech. Thus, you can advertise your future presentation or think about the need for it.

If the next speech is not included in your plans, then you can repeat the question again. Moreover, when a speaker repeats aloud a question asked to him from the audience, he can “accidentally” make a reservation and not utter a certain word or add his own. As you understand, the question may slightly change from this.

For example, the following question sounds: "What to do if you get lost in the forest?"

A speaker who does not know the answer may say something like this: “This is a very relevant question and I will be happy to answer it. So, you ask me what to do if you find yourself in a difficult situation? So, in no case should you lose your temper , remember, emotions in this position will not help you in any way, so we turn on our logic and focus on the situation. What else I would like to advise you is to always calculate the consequences of your actions in advance and then you will never find yourself in a difficult situation. "

Unfortunately, not all people around us are well-educated. There's nothing you can do about it. But on the other hand, you can and should learn to communicate with such tactless people. In this article, I will teach you some ways and techniques of communication with which you can easily deal with these ignoramuses.

How did it all start?

Before answering such questions, you need to try to understand for what purpose the person asked them. Basically, of course, not to offend you or "hurt a nerve." Although such people also exist. Usually, answers to questions like: when you get married or give birth to a child, buy an apartment or get a good job, a person is of little interest. He is just trying to impose intimacy in this way and expresses his opinion (which, of course, you did not ask about). Or for another purpose: to make you embarrassed. Or for the purpose of self-affirmation. But whatever the purpose of your interlocutor, you have the right not to answer such questions, and are not obliged to do so!

But if you do decide to answer such a tactless question, it is important that your answer be witty and original. Just do not forget that wit must be proportionate: sobering up the opponent, but not hurting more than the opponent deserves.

I will give an example of wit from Churchill . Once a lady told him: “If you were my husband, I would pour poison into your glass!”. To which the witty Churchill retorted: "If I were your husband, I would immediately drink it!".

Another example of a witty response to a tactless question . Anna German, who was tall and did not like it very much when they pointed this out to her, one entertainer once asked: “Tell me, how many meters are you?” She proudly replied: “It doesn’t matter how many metros, it’s important that I am definitely taller than you…”.

You can answer tactless questions in a different way. Of course, the form and level of harshness of the answer always depend on the degree of impudence of the question itself and on your relationship with your opponent. . In addition to the witty answer, there are several more ways.

So:

counter question (“And for what purpose are you interested?”, “Why do you need such information?”).
Changing the direction of a conversation (the simplest and most effective) - "Oh, what do I have, you'd better tell about yourself."
Ignore "What did you say? Oh, today they promised rain in the afternoon.
Attitude towards the interlocutor “Well, you asked!”, “You are not in a good mood today, right?”
Assessments “Great question!”, “You still ask how to save the world!”
Emotional reaction : imitation of shock or hysteria, you can remain silent or just smile.

List of the most tactless questions

Especially for you, I have compiled a list of the most tactless questions.

With answers to them:

1. "How old are you?". By the way, I was never embarrassed by my age and always answered the truth without being embarrassed about it.

But if this is a tactless and very personal question for you, then answer this way:

"Whatever I have they are all mine"
A counter question: “How much will you give?”
In the words of Carlson: "I am a woman in the prime of life ...".

2. “Are you getting better?”

Options:

"It's just that you lost weight"
"I'm already at the age when they bloom, not dry"
A counter question: "What don't you like?"

3. "Are you married?"

Options:

“I am not “for” my husband, I am “with” my husband.”
“Of course, I have three of them to choose from.”
Counter: "Are you in doubt?", "Do you want to make me an offer?".

4. A tactless question that baffles both men and women: “Did you have someone before me?” The question, in my opinion, is not only tactless, but also stupid. It was always interesting for me to look at the reaction of a person if he was given the following answer to this question: “Yes, 20 people, probably. Does that bother you?"

Denying the obvious in this case is stupid, so it’s better to answer in an original and romantic way:

"If there was someone, then it cannot be compared with you."
“Does it matter? I only love you."
“Yes, before you were, of course…. Dreams of you."

5. I don’t know about you, but I am baffled by a question asked by a stranger on the street or on the phone: “Do you have a minute?”

Sometimes I want to respond with rudeness, but my upbringing does not allow me to do so, so I answer like this:

"Depends on what you need."
"Sorry, I'm not wasting time."
"Yes, but it costs too much."

6. "Why don't you have children?" (wives, cars, apartments, high positions, etc.).

Decent response options:

"Not deserved yet."
Karma doesn't allow.
"It will interfere with my genius."
Counter question: “Why are you?”, “Why are you interested in this?”, “Can you offer it to me?”

7. Some try to joke, without realizing it, look stupid. One of these questions: “Where do you get so many little things? What were you standing on the porch?

Answer like this:

"Yes, just left the church."
“I just collect scrap metal.”
"Do you want to go together tomorrow?"
"Are you afraid of competition?"

The main thing to remember : When answering such questions, be creative and creative. Develop speed of thinking, learn to control yourself and do not be embarrassed when meeting with such people.

Psychologists recommend that people who are embarrassed by certain questions solve those problems that they are often asked about. But we are well aware that it is impossible to solve all issues. And most importantly, even if they are all solved, there will definitely be new ones, and so on ad infinitum. Unfortunately, it is also impossible to teach tact to all people. Therefore, try to be patient and calm with people climbing into your soul and into your personal life. (although it's difficult). Perhaps they do this because they do not have their own at all.

Finally, I want to wish you that in any life situation you can easily and with dignity find a successful and witty answer to any, even the most difficult question!

In Part 1 of the How to Answer Questions: Sample Answers series, I provide examples of 20 questions, including some of the most common questions you're likely to be asked in an interview.

Knowing how to answer employer questions is essential to your success. Your self-confidence depends on knowing that you can answer questions correctly and effectively.

Employers know that excitement can keep candidates talking endlessly. Show your confidence and your interest with short and effective answers. Too often, candidates take long pauses in response to a question, get nervous, and talk about things that are not relevant to the job. Closed and one-word answers are also ineffective. Ideally, responses should help keep the conversation going and communicate effectively.

Examples of answers to questions

1. Why did you leave your last job?

I guarantee that you will be asked this question, so be sure to prepare a correct and acceptable answer to it. Good reasons for leaving include: looking for additional growth opportunities, moving, downsizing, or reorganizing. The answers might be:

"The company has been laid off, so I'm looking for a job."

“The company I currently work for is small in scale and I have achieved everything I could. I am looking for new features (challenges) to use my skills and strengths and continue to grow and contribute.”

"We just moved to this city to be close to our family, that's why I'm looking for a job."

2. What are your weaknesses?

At a recent seminar I was speaking at, one of the participants yelled out from the audience, "That's a very stupid question." I can tell you that it is not as simple as it seems. Employers can learn a lot about a candidate by asking this question. I always advise executives and HR managers who attend my trainings to ask this question, because the candidates themselves provide them with evidence of why they are not suitable for this job. A CFO recently told me this story:

“I was interviewing for an accountant position. When I asked the candidate to tell me about his weaknesses, he said: “Well, somehow I mixed up 3 and 8, but in the end this typo did not affect anything. 3 and 8 - we are in the field of finance! he exclaimed, emphasizing his annoyance at the candidate's confession.

I bring this story up every time because the weaknesses question causes many job applicants to make the big mistake of pointing out their weaknesses or starting to remember real stories of failures, as the accountant did.

If you think about it in advance, and make up an answer, then this question will not seem so difficult. I recommend that you choose the weak side that does not prevent you from fulfilling your duties. The answer I always used was: "Chocolate - I have a weakness for chocolate!" Ha, ha, ha, joke, joke, joke. Adding a little humor to an interview doesn't hurt. And often we move on to the next question. But, if the interviewer went back to their question and said, “No, really, what is your biggest weakness?” I could answer:

“You know, when I work on a project, I go headlong into it that I completely forget about time. Before I know that the work day is over and it's time to leave, I still continue to work. This is probably my weak point. I think I should understand that I need to leave work at exactly 19 o'clock. But when I'm working on a project, I'm creative and I just can't stop halfway through.".

Here the weak side has turned into a positive, attractive feature.

Try to choose something that won't hurt your chances of getting a job. The best answer for our accountant might have been to say:

“I have excellent computer skills. I know how Excel works, but I'm very weak in real programming and I need to practice more if I need to write technical specifications for specialists in the IT department.

No one is asking him to create advanced software, and his answer actually enhances his technical skills.

Another approach to answering this question is to discuss a skill that you are not yet proficient in and then add that you are taking special courses and are closely involved in mastering this skill, and now this skill has become much better. If you think ahead, you can choose something like this, which will not negatively affect the decision to hire you.

Other acceptable responses might include admitting that you are risk-averse or that you are critical of your own performances, and sometimes too hard on yourself if you make a mistake.

3. What are your strengths?

4. Tell us about your main achievements at your current or last job

Write down three key accomplishments at work that will demonstrate your ability to complete the tasks in your new position. Do not mention personal achievements such as: "I lost 10 kg" or "I won 300,000 rubles in the lottery." Illustrate your accomplishments best by referring to specific examples such as:

“I consider it my main achievement that in 2016 our division was recognized as the best foreign division in the XXX group of companies according to financial results.

5. You have a lot of work experience. Why do you need such work at a lower level?

The employer is afraid that you will be bored and want to leave the company quickly if he hires you. Or he may suspect that you “burned out” at your last job and are now looking for an easier job and will not be productive. You must anticipate this question. Don't resell your skills. Do not show that you are desperate and ready to take on any job. Explain why this job is right for you. Talk about life changes. You may say that you want to spend more time with your family and are therefore looking for a non-travel job.

Be careful not to say that you need an easy, stress-free job, as the employer will doubt that you will responsibly perform all job duties. Another mistake to avoid is not to say: "I'm ready to start with any position." Yes, now you think so, but the employer will be afraid that you will start looking for a new job tomorrow, or at least expect a salary increase soon, as soon as you "prove yourself."

Employers are reluctant to hire a person who is overskilled, because they believe such an employee will not be satisfied with such work, he will not be interested in fulfilling duties, in addition, he will not stay long in the company. They don't want someone who is "burned out" and sees work as a paycheck. Also, your skills and knowledge may threaten the career of your future leader, especially if you are a better fit for his position.

Explain why you want this position. “I need a job” is not an answer that an interviewer will like. You must have a logical and plausible reason why the demotion suits you. Try something like this:

“I am now a dispatcher and work 10 nights a month. It has become very difficult for my family. I decided to find an accountant position where I would focus on taxes and audits, which would allow me to come home every night. The position of the dispatcher requires a lot of trips outside the city, which I no longer want to do. I believe that my extensive financial skills, which I would use with you, would have a positive impact on your organization.”

Create a reasonable explanation. Showing desperation or willingness to take on any job, you thereby disqualify yourself. This position is important for the company, and you must show not only that you can cope with these responsibilities, but also that you want to do it.

Be careful when answering. Make sure that your voice and tone do not express irritation or desperation. It is important that you do not just want to do any work, but look for the right opportunity. You need to convince the employer that you really want this job, and not just ready to accept any job.

6. Why do you want to leave the company?

Expect this question as all employers ask employees who are still working. They want to hear that you are looking for more challenges, promotions, more financial rewards. You can also say that you are leaving because you want to cut travel time, reduce travel, or because your company is unstable.

Try to answer:

« I learned a lot in this company, but there are no career opportunities there. I enjoy challenges and mastering new skills as well as improving my old ones. So now I'm looking for a new position."

“I learned that there is an open position in your company. I love my current position, but being able to work for a large, stable company like yours and get to the office in 15 minutes appeals to me. At the moment, the road takes me from an hour to two.

“I have gained a lot of experience in my other positions. But now I want to take on more responsibility in order to have a greater impact on the bottom line. Your company will really allow me to see the fruits of my labor, and this is important to me.”

7. What motivates you at work?

“The ability to apply your strengths and skills at work to be a productive employee. I take pride in my work and enjoy using my skills." List your main skills from the 5 point program.

8. Describe your ideal place to work

Explain that the ideal job is one where you can fully utilize your skills, knowledge and be the most productive employee. Most job seekers start talking about salary, benefits, and not about tasks and responsibilities. Postpone discussing wages and benefits until you've received an offer. You still need to convince him that you are the perfect candidate for the job. This is a great opportunity to show that you enjoy learning new things, that you are adaptable and ready to take on new challenges when needed. Repeat your 5-point program as often as possible, emphasizing that you meet all of the job requirements. This will only be a plus.

9. How are you working on yourself?

Employers value employees who never stop learning throughout their lives. It is best to say that you take courses, take private lessons in foreign languages, attend conferences or trainings, read professional literature to improve your skills. You can say:

“I enrolled in the project manager certification program and I’m working hard on it.”

“I am now going to enter the university in the evening department to get an MBA.”

"I enjoy doing research on the Internet and spending my free time reading business articles, ideas from which can be useful in my work."

10. What was the last book you read?

Often this question is asked to find out what you read for work. A common mistake that many job seekers make is to pick the current hot business book that's on everyone's lips right now and name its title to look smart. Most often, the next question you will be asked will be about the principles and theories outlined in this book, as well as their discussion and exchange of opinions. So don't try to pretend to impress the interviewer - point to a book you know well enough to talk about the plot or content.

This is not a critical issue, so don't worry if the book you recently read was a novel and not a business book. One word of caution: don't say your pace of life is so fast or you're so busy raising kids that you don't have time to read. Instead, say:

11. Tell me about a personal goal you want to achieve.

Share a goal that will increase your value as an employee. Mastering a new skill, getting a training session, learning a new program or application is what will increase your value to an employer. Certificates, diplomas, or training courses you wish to complete may also be a good answer.

12. Do you consider yourself successful?

Of course you do. So answer:

“Yes, I do, and I set myself up for success every day when I go to work. I focus on being productive and adding value to my organization."

“I always give 110% to my work. At the last certification, I received the highest marks.

13. What are you doing to develop in your professional field?

One Fortune 500 company asks every candidate this question. What for? They want to hire people who think a few steps ahead and are good problem solvers, and they know that by hiring people who are constantly learning, they are making a good investment in the future of the company. Explain that you read trade magazines, follow the news in your industry, read books, or take courses to develop your skills.

14. I'm not sure if you are the right person for this job.

Don't be discouraged when you hear something like this in an interview. Almost all employers have doubts about the candidate, although many of them never express their concerns out loud. Look at this as a good opportunity to sell yourself. Use a 60 second sale and a 5 point program to answer.

You may be asked this question as part of a stress interview. Be prepared to choose the right tactics to answer stressful questions.

15. Describe the worst manager you have ever had.

As much as you'd like to criticize your former boss and talk about his mistakes, I suggest you reconsider this approach. Instead, try this:

“One leader didn’t often give feedback. Months could pass without any feedback from him, or it was impossible to understand what he had in mind. I don't like it when someone is standing over me, but I like to feel like I'm part of a team, to contribute, to exchange ideas, and to know that my work is in line with the goals of my boss and the company. In my opinion, there was a lack of open communication. I think what is really important is effective communication between the subordinate and the manager.”

This response demonstrates a positive reaction to the importance of working together in achieving company goals.

However, some positions imply greater autonomy. This is a growing trend. In this case, you can formulate your answer like this:

“I'm good at my job and for two years I had a boss who gave me a lot of leeway. I have succeeded in reaching all my goals and exceeded them from time to time. My manager was promoted and the new boss prefers to control everyone and everything It was difficult for me and many of my colleagues to get used to it. I find myself most productive when I'm given clear goals and given the freedom to act."

16. What did you enjoy doing most at your previous job?

When talking about what you like, relate it to the job you are going to do for a new potential employer. Be specific about what you will be doing in this position, such as conducting staff training, creating Excel spreadsheets, managing the project budget, or leading the project from start to finish. Don't talk about benefits like

“I liked that my last company ordered pizza for employees on Fridays at their own expense.”

17. What did you dislike doing at your last job?

It's a difficult question. Do not report anything that could affect your ability to work for this company. When giving an example, use information you know about the new job, such as the fact that all of this company's publications are outsourced. In your previous job, everything was done in-house by in-house employees. So you can answer like this:

“One of the things I really didn't like was the time it took to complete print projects. We did it ourselves, without resorting to outsourcing. It took us seven weeks to complete a project that we could have finished in five days with a company that specializes in it. It seemed to me that the process was not very efficient.”

The best way to answer this question is to choose something neutral, or something that will benefit you. For example:

“In my last job, we had very slow computers and an old version of MS Office programs. Because of this, it took me a lot of time to work, and the old versions provided few features in terms of functionality than new programs. This worried me, but the company did not have the funds to upgrade its equipment.”

18. Describe your ideal leader

What the interviewer is really saying with this question is, “Would you be able to work with me?” Answer accordingly. Specify the management style that will allow you to be the most productive at work. Give an example of what the boss did, for example,

"The leader gave autonomy and I had the authority to make decisions on a number of issues on my own."

“We all felt that we were an important part of the team, our ideas and suggestions were being listened to.”

19. Why did you change jobs so often?

Defector candidates have become commonplace as we become more mobile, especially with downsizing and failed startups. Defector candidates with short periods of work in one place are alarming employers. After all, it takes several months to get to know and adapt to a new job. The employer is worried that they will spend time on your training, and then you will leave. In such cases, the truth works best. If you've moved around a lot, try answering this:

“My husband’s position required us to constantly move. His current position ensures that we stay in this city for a long time so that our son can finish school here. I strive to be successful in my career. In various positions, I have mastered the skills of managing various programs. I know a lot of programs, which makes me a productive worker.”

If the change of companies was due to obtaining higher positions, then you can give the following answer:

“In every position I learned new skills, and in every company I got a promotion. Many of the companies were not very large, leaving which was the only option for promotion. I am now looking for a larger organization where I can stay for a long time and show good results.

20. Why did you leave your last job?

Given the times we live in, layoffs and corporate layoffs are happening everywhere. To answer this question, you can say:

“My company, like many others in the market, was affected by the crisis, and my position was liquidated during the reorganization”

"My company decided to close the regional office and my entire department was disbanded." Add at the end: "That's why I'm looking for a job now."

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“Why are you not married?”, “How much do you earn?”, “Who will you vote for?” - these and other similar tactless questions cause a shudder in many of us. What to do if the interlocutor asked a question, but you do not want or simply cannot answer it?

website talks about 9 ways to beautifully avoid the answer. And the bonus at the end of the article will tell you what to do if you come across an annoying interlocutor, on whom these tricks do not work.

1. Ask clarifying questions

To cut the ground from under the feet of the interlocutor, ask him clarifying questions, and the more questions, the better. Answering them, he will get confused and lose the thread of the conversation. Most importantly, ask questions with a serious expression on your face so that the interlocutor does not feel the catch. By the way, if you are talking with a person who is not very close, you can refuse to answer questions about salary or work in general, citing trade secrets.

2. Compliment

Compliments related to the question you were asked will look easier and more natural. For example, if you were asked about children, praise the child or grandchild of the interlocutor. And add some general answer - “everything has its time”, “as soon as, so immediately”, “it does not depend on me”, and so on. People like compliments and at the same time they are a little embarrassed. Therefore, the interlocutor is unlikely to develop the topic further. The main thing is that the praise corresponds to the true state of affairs, otherwise your compliment will be perceived as sarcasm.

3. Specify the reason for the question

Ask the interlocutor what prompted him to ask the question, and after the answer, continue to develop this topic. For example, suggest some reason for the question. Thus, the conversation will change direction, and the uncomfortable question will remain unanswered.

4. Reply with a joke

It is possible to laugh off an inappropriate question in cases where when there is confidence that the joke will be understood and appreciated. This method works best in a large group, because the more people around, the more likely it is that someone will laugh and tell another joke in response, thereby saving you from having to answer the question.

5. Start pouring water

This method is often used by politicians and various public figures. As a result, the interlocutor seems to receive an answer to his question, but he will not be able to say exactly what they answered him. The method is ideal for people whose strong point is eloquence.

6. Answer a question with a question

Another favorite trick of politicians and other persons with high social status. This method is used quite often, which is why it often causes irritation. Therefore, it is better to use it only in exceptional cases.

7. Flash your intellect

The method is useful if knowledge allows you to develop a deep discussion on the topic you set. A large number of really interesting facts can distract even the most annoying interlocutor from the question asked.

8. Reframe the question

The meaning of this method is to make the interlocutor feel the absurdity, inappropriateness of his question. It is important not to overdo it with sarcasm,Otherwise, the interlocutor may be offended. Remember, your goal is to keep that person's goodwill (as long as they don't ask inappropriate questions too often, of course).