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St. Petersburg: IG Ves, 2011 - 320 pages.

Olaf Jacobsen

THANKS

FOREWORD

Chapter 1. INCREDIBLE

MAGIC FORMULA

AMAZING TRANSFORMATIONS DEFINE OUR WORDS

OUR FEAR OF RAPID CHANGE GOVERNS THE PACE OF LIFE

THE MAGIC OF SUPERSENSUAL PERCEPTION

ADVANCED PERCEPTION EXERCISE: TWICE BLINDLY

SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE OF UNIVERSAL INTERCONNECTION

Chapter 2. PARALLEL REALITIES

CAN WE FEEL THE TRUE REALITY?

EVERYONE LIVES IN OWN REALITY

WITH OUR SENSES, WE CAN RECOGNIZE THE ENERGY AFFECTING US FROM THE OUTSIDE WORLD

CAN I BE ABSOLUTELY SURE THAT ALL THIS IS TRUE?

IS MY FEELING A PERCEPTION OR A FEELING?

WE CAN CHANGE ONLY OUR POINT OF VIEW, BUT NOT EMOTIONS

Chapter 3. CLARITY

HOW DOES THE PHENOMENON OF SUPERSENSUAL PERCEPTION ARISE?

HOW GENERALLY DO WE PROVIDE YOURSELF WITH SOMETHING?

UPLOADING CONSCIOUSNESS AT THE END OF A CONTACT

"I'M NOT AT YOUR ORDER ANYMORE"

DEEP SENSE OF THE PARTICLE "NOT"

CAUTION: RAPID AND EXTENSIVE CHANGES CAN BE DANGEROUS

Chapter 4. RELEASE

DESIRE FOR CHANGE LINKS US WITH OTHERS

WHEN WE EXPLORE OUR FEELINGS, SOMETHING CHANGES

WE RELEASE OUR SENSES BY RIDING UNCONSCIOUS STRESS

CONSCIOUSNESS CREATES A FRAMEWORK IN WHICH MENTAL IMBALANCE IS DISSOLVED

I UNDERSTAND MYSELF BETTER THAN OTHERS

PROBLEM POSE - SOLUTION POSITION

IS MY STRESS NOT MY OWN AT ALL?

UNFULFILLED DESIRE FOR CHANGE AFFECTS EVERYONE

Chapter 5. NEW MODELS OF BEHAVIOR

OUR NATURAL PROCESS OF LEARNING AND RELEASING

WE CAN HELP ONLY WHEN HELP IS WANTED

WE HAVE A CHOICE WHICH ROLE TO TAKE ON

WHO REPLIES WHO?

CONCLUSIONS ABOUT OUR SENSUAL ABILITIES

RESONANCE AND SUPERSENSUAL PERCEPTION EVERYWHERE

Olaf Jacobsen

I no longer obey you. How to get rid of negative emotions and experiences by entering into a new relationship

May this book support all readers and readers in discovering more and more puzzle pieces and put them into one picture of a perfect universe.

Olaf Jacobsen is the founder of free constellations, seminar leader and psychological counselor. He has published four books and many articles on the topic of liberation from inner problems. Olaf Jacobsen has always been convinced that there is some simple solution to get rid of many of the unpleasant emotions that arise in us every day or throughout life. And now, finally, he was able to find this magic formula. It sounds like this: "I no longer obey you" or "I no longer give myself to this." How can this work? In this book, you will learn that every person has the ability and disposition to telepathy and empathy. You will learn how to properly use the magic spell proposed by the author to embed it in any area of ​​life and apply to any situation. You can easily recognize and get rid of feelings of dependence, fear of loss, negative influence, sexual disharmony, feelings of inferiority.

THANKS

Many people have played an important role in my life and encouraged me to experience a diverse range of feelings and emotions, which in turn is reflected in this book. If it were not for the numerous authors of various scientific and psychological works and articles, as well as teachers, experts and seminar leaders with whom I happened to communicate, I would not be able now to rely on this experience and form such a train of thought, which is presented here on the pages this book.

I thank my Jacqueline Schwindt for deep insight into my feelings, for her experiences that influenced my views, as well as for her affectionate and constructive criticism during the compilation of the book.

My thanks also go to the seminar participants who inspired me with their experiences and life stories with numerous examples, as well as the authors whose knowledge and wisdom I have the opportunity to quote.

In this regard, special thanks go to Klaus Mücke, who in his book “Where there is danger, there is salvation”, offers a treasury full of psychoactive sayings, which served as the source of my creativity.

I thank Mike Zimmermann (my sister at heart) and Monika Anna Mesner for the valuable guidance.

I thank Monika Unemann and all the Windpferd staff for their sensitive participation and support. Lecturer Sylvia Lujohan has always believed in me. Thank you very much for that too.

In conclusion, I say thank you to the Universe for all the balance and imbalance, and for the fateful set of circumstances, thanks to which I was able to intensively learn in life.

FOREWORD

Why exactly I got the task of writing this book, I do not know. However, I see that it was my life path that led me to this. Could it be something like a destination?

In fact, what is purpose? Is there something that defines us humans? Don't we have free will? What, then, is our experience, which we call "free will"?

Undoubtedly, I am a person who consciously goes my own way. And yet, looking back, every time I notice that my decisions coincide in an amazing way with the events around me. Could I have predicted this? Have I adjusted to my environment? Or was it all just pure "synchronicity"?

The person who picked up this book made a similar decision himself. And at the same time, there was no other way: it had to be so. Why and why - we will find out only later.

How about a solution such as no longer belonging to something? When we “want” it, it becomes our choice, which is gradually built into our life. It develops to such an extent that it becomes a permanent component of our behavior. We freely make decisions, and then we learn that they coincide in an amazing way with the world around us.

I wish all readers on their path in life more synchronicity and exciting experiences. Let the course of things unfold gradually and take shape like a universal mosaic. May we, as pieces of this puzzle, become more aware and see how everything in the world interacts closely with each other.

Olaf Jacobsen,

Karlsruhe, July 2006

Chapter 1. INCREDIBLE

MAGIC FORMULA

Early this morning, I pulled out a card. It read: "The easiest way to the secret kingdom is through the gate of acceptance."

For me, the cards of the fairies of Marcia Cina Mager are an invaluable gift. Its wording is easy to accept. They open my true feelings and relax the pressure of my mind, they give me answers that I can immediately relate to my question or current life situation.

However, sometimes in life it can be very difficult to accept something. I hear my inner voice, which pushes me to accept what I have heard, read or experienced and integrate this experience, but this is exactly what I cannot do. I remember people who told me: “Hey, Olaf, you just need to accept it inside yourself, recognize what it is, love yourself, develop unconditional love, don't think about the future - live! Live now!" It didn't help. I felt that I was missing something.

Deep down, I have always been convinced that there is some simple solution for such cases. I understood that we humans can very easily get rid of many unpleasant emotions. And now I was finally able to find this magic spell. It sounds like this: "I no longer obey you," or "I no longer give myself to this." At first, it seems as if this proposal does not radiate love and acceptance. It sounds like isolation, but that's a mistake. The effect of this phrase depends on the inner position we use to pronounce it. If we direct it against someone, then it is bad for us. However, it leads to the miracle of liberation if we express it for the good of all. While reading this book, you will learn how to properly use this spell to embed it in any area of ​​life and apply to any situation.

This magic formula works immediately and can be used without any additional knowledge. We just say it out loud or mentally, and we already feel freer. How can this work? I have long observed and investigated the phenomenon of telepathic sensations in familial or "systemic, constellations." During this process, you can clearly feel that substitutes (people acting in other people's roles) are experiencing the emotions of the person being replaced. Among specialists, this is called "representational perception." I was able to understand that in our everyday life we ​​often unintentionally play substitute roles in relation to other people and, in this connection, slip into the perception of their feelings. We think these are our own feelings and we want to get rid of them. We believe that something is wrong with us and are fighting with ourselves. Or we confront those people who have caused these feelings in us, and we want to free ourselves from them.

Every day we experience intense role play: between parents and children, bosses and subordinates, teachers and students, doctor and patients, coach and athletes, therapist and client, leader and seminar participants, conductor and musicians, in pairs, between colleagues, politicians, and also between two groups, for example, between two football teams.

In this book, you will learn that every person has the ability and disposition to telepathy and empathy.

The more conscious we become about the perception of our feelings, the clearer we will be able to understand them, and the easier it will be for us to deal with them. Feelings of addiction, fear of loss, negative influences, sexual disharmony, feelings of inferiority, burnout syndrome, lifeguard syndrome, lack of energy, streaks of failures and even some illnesses and many other unpleasant roles can often be removed from ourselves by the attitude: we no longer put ourselves at their disposal ... We have a choice and more often than we could imagine.

Through the instructions for use in the following chapters, you will learn a wonderful way to free yourself from negative feelings. It will become clear to you why and at what moments you can purposefully and effectively create "magic". When you have this clarity, others will look at you with different eyes, many will react in a completely different way.

First, you yourself must learn to look at the world of emotions with new eyes. You yourself will expand your picture of the world to give the magic spell a suitable framework. To do this, some prerequisites must be met: if you want to learn a new picture of the world, you must "leave yourself" to the views outlined in this book. You must immerse yourself in this point of view, understand it, try it, get to know it ... ("The easiest way to the secret kingdom leads through the gate of acceptance.")

Once you have taken this step, then you have the strength to make a choice. You feel the energy of choice and achieve clarity. You are free to choose: stay with the good old way of looking at things and then say: "I am no longer left to the point of view that I learned here," or you recognize the value of new knowledge and accept it. You decide what will bring you more benefits. Perhaps you will choose a sensible combination of both?

I am often wary and distrustful when I learn something new. I observe and compare this with my feelings, my previous experience and my current knowledge. I recommend that you take the same position. Consider carefully what I am offering you here. Feel it, stay open and critical at the same time. At the same time, you accumulate new experience - and one day magic may arise. You will be amazed!

When you have read the entire book, become familiar with it in its entirety, watch what changes. Think back to what state you were in before you started reading. Compare your new feelings with previous sensations, compare your expanded picture of the world with the picture you had before, correlate your new possibilities with what you were able to do before, and you will clearly see the changes.

Walk a little with me through this universe full of wonders. Open yourself to the exploration of the mysterious space around us and in ourselves. Take your time, make sure that during this time you are not under any stress. The universe is so perfect that it will replicate this stress. It's like in Michael Ende's The Infinite Story: "Little Bastian's every wish came true exactly as he pronounced it, even if he really meant something else." Barbel More, in his best-selling book Orders from the Universe, talks about how vaguely expressed desires can lead to unwanted fulfillment. Many people who are actively involved in spirituality confirm that the universe reflects both our conscious and our unconscious energy - "both inside and outside." Even science proves that the observed object is often reflected in the observer. Someone who is afraid of something will receive confirmation of their fears, someone who doubts, will be confused, someone who asks, will receive appropriate answers, someone who investigates, will gain an interesting experience. Why is this so? Walk with me the path of the explorer. Let's begin to consciously comprehend our life: we observe, gain experience, learn something, form our beliefs, doubt and re-observe.

Realizing this deeper

At the end of each topic in this section, you will find my additions and extracts for a deeper understanding of the material covered, as well as quotes from other authors designed to inspire you and confirm the problem under discussion. Leave yourself time for reflection for this information, so that its action can calmly manifest in you, including at the level of feelings. If you read all the excerpts several times, you will be able to anchor the corresponding neural connections in your brain and study their effect on you.

The effect of the statements presented in this book on people with serious psychological or emotional problems is unpredictable. The contents of the book and the recommended exercises are not intended to replace a healthcare professional or professional therapy. Physical or mental ailments that occur during or after exercise should not be ignored; they may indicate health problems that require specialist intervention to get rid of.

“Problems arise because people have long known what is good for them, but do not allow themselves to do so,” says Gunter Schmidt, MD, a specialist in psychotherapeutic medicine and head of the Milton Erickson Institute in Heidelberg.

If, when we feel this or that problem, we use the setting: “I am no longer at your disposal,” saying it to ourselves or out loud, then something in our feelings may spontaneously change. A new view of the world sets a framework for this installation, and it gives us the associated clarity.

“In order to understand something, certain conditions must be created. People are always in control of what they already know and question what they don't know yet, ”write Ariel and Shya Kane, leaders of the Instantaneous Transformation workshops, in their book The Secret of a Wonderful Relationship.

The better we know something, the more focused and successful we can handle it. We have a choice.

Pete Sanders writes in his book A Guide to Supersensory Perception: “Many of your feelings are not really yours at all. These are the feelings of other people that you perceive. "

Josephine wrote to me: “Ever since I made the arrangement of my parents and myself (a description of family constellations will be later), a lot has changed for me. I realized that I want to live the life of my mother, because she could not do it because of me. Therefore, I have always been in conflict with what I achieved, and with what I really want. The consequence of this was a constant feeling of unhappiness. When I read your manuscript on Monday, I was pondering how I could make a constellation on this issue. Who inside me determines what makes me happy? It was as if a veil fell from my eyes. The wonderful phrase “I no longer belong to this” changed my feelings. Now I feel myself in a completely different way - more harmoniously, freer, I see different situations in a different way and can more safely resolve them, in accordance with my own nature. "

The universe is the perfect mirror for those who know how to use it.

AMAZING TRANSFORMATIONS DEFINE OUR WORDS

Some of the following incidents I experienced myself, some of them I read, some I was told.

In the cinema in Karlsruhe, I stood on the parapet and looked down from six meters. People crowded on the sidewalk at the checkout counter. I chose one person from the line, concentrated on him and began to intensely observe his every movement. After a few minutes, he began to look around uneasily. Finally, he looked up straight at me and met my eyes. Did this person feel like I was watching him?

Stefanie's phone rang. She immediately guessed who was on the other end of the line. When Stefanie answered the phone, she heard exactly the person she was thinking of. Could she feel it?

Ten-year-old Cohen spent several days visiting his grandparents. On the last night, he woke up with the distinct thought that his parrot had died. The thought didn’t let him go anymore. When Cohen's parents took him home and brought him home, he found his parrot dead, lying at the bottom of the cage. Could Cohen feel it? (You can read about such facts in the book "The Seventh Sense of Man" by Rupert Sheldrake.)

Some couples often experience this phenomenon - one says what the other just thought, or they state the fact that they are thinking about the same thing at the same time. Both are sitting in the kitchen, the window is open. The husband thinks it would be good to close the window. Nothing was said, but the wife gets up and closes the window. Or: the wife begins to tell her thoughts about a movie. The husband exclaims in surprise: "I was just thinking about this same movie!" Can they mutually feel each other?

I was dating a woman some time ago, and one Sunday I suddenly felt a sense of rage, which prompted me to dial her phone number. I called just at the moment when she was hugging another man, as she later told me. Could I feel that she was inwardly distant from me?

Once, while cycling through the city, I saw my friend walking in front of me. She had not yet had time to notice me, so I wanted to surprise her and slowly began to approach her from behind. Suddenly, when I was already at a distance of about twenty meters, she turned around and looked directly at me. Did she feel like I was watching her? She later confirmed that a certain sense of anxiety caused her to turn around.

Nurse Ute, during her evening round at the hospital, felt that she needed to visit a certain patient immediately. When she entered the ward, the patient, who was obviously ill, told her: "It's good that you came, I just wanted to call you." Could she feel it?

When I wrote the first draft of this book, I began to ponder which publisher would be right for me and would be able to publish it. I went to a bookstore and looked at books from various publishers. My feelings pointed to Windpferd every time. Authors tend to submit their manuscripts to several publishers at the same time, and then see who is interested. I decided to send a request only to this publisher. How it all ended, you see. Could I have foreseen this?

In the systemic constellations therapy group in Karlsruhe, Bernd's family situation was to be assigned to roles. The goal was for Bernd to learn and understand something new about himself in order to solve his communication problems. The selected group members became accustomed to the role of members of his family without knowing them personally and without receiving any instructions or descriptions from Bernd. He actively watched what was happening. The deputies communicated their feelings of kinship and acted in accordance with them. Spontaneous dialogues arose. Bernd later confirmed with surprise that his real family members speak and behave very similarly. Did the deputies feel what the real characters of the family members they replace were?

Thousands of professional therapists work with this sensory perception every day. The specialized literature describes and understands such phenomena as telepathy. The Duden dictionary interprets telepathy as "distant sensation - the perception of the mental processes of another person without the participation of the senses."

Rupert Sheldrake collected detailed research and reports from hundreds of people and published them in his books: "The Seventh Sense of Animals" and "The Seventh Sense of Man". He is a biologist, Fellow of the Royal Society of Great Britain, former Assistant Professor of Cell Biology at the University of Cambridge and Visiting Professor at the Graduate Institute in Connecticut in the United States. He has achieved worldwide recognition for his research on collective intelligence and morphic fields (www.sheldrake.org).

Clemens Kyuubi, author of popular science books and director of many acclaimed documentaries, for example about reincarnation (Living Buddha), in his film On the Road to Another Dimension and in the book of the same name, along with frequent quackery, also noted many miracles that he experienced during his trips to famous healers and shamans. The Kyuubi itself is already a great miracle, as it was inexplicably healed from paralysis with a transverse spinal cord injury.

Authors, recognized by hundreds of thousands of readers, include the Dalai Lama (Nobel Peace Prize laureate and author of The Ways to Happiness), Dr. Joseph Murphy (The Power of Your Subconscious), Stephen Hawking (The World in a Nutshell), Berbel Mor ("Orders from the Universe"), Torvald Detlefsen ("Destiny as a Chance"), Ken Wilber ("Eros, Cosmos, Logos"), Lao Tzu ("Tao Te Ching"), Eckhart Tolle ("The Power of the Moment Now" ), among other things, they write about the unity of the world and report on telepathic experiences and knowledge available to all living beings. These can only be explained by the unity of all that exists.

Joachim Bauer, professor of psychoneuroimmunology (author of the book Why I Feel What You Feel), talks about the existence of mirror neurons in the brain, which are responsible for the fact that we perceive other (present) people through the phenomenon of resonance and thus we can learn to maintain and develop these skills. These extremely curious brain cells were discovered by a renowned international research group led by Italian scientist Giacomo Risolatti and brain researcher William Hutchison.

The film trilogy "The Matrix" caused a huge resonance among millions of people. It is about the interconnectedness of all living beings. Three films evoke ideas about what can happen if this relationship is known, accepted, precisely studied, if it is managed for personal purposes. After a long struggle, peace comes at a moment when the protagonist of the story, Neo, fully recognizes and admits connection and unity with all people, that is, even with his worst enemy, Agent Smith ("The easiest way to the secret kingdom leads through the gate of acceptance").

When I saw the first part of the film in the cinema with my girlfriend, I strongly identified with the main character. When the movie ended, I walked out of the theater feeling that I could influence my environment (matrix). When we approached the car, which had a central door locking system, I internally imagined how to open the driver's door, but the other door remains closed. Indeed, it happened “by accident”, because my friend “out of forgetfulness”, while I was opening the car door, pulled the handle of her door and thereby intervened in the central locking mechanism. Thus, the second door remained closed.

Scientists and quantum physicists have long known about the phenomenon of the interconnectedness of everything in the universe. Christian Thomas Kohl, a political scientist, quotes experimental physicist Anton Zeilinger in his book Buddhism and Quantum Physics: particles affect the qualities of others and immediately entail their corresponding changes. This is true regardless of how far these particles are from each other. Einstein called this process "ghostly distant influence", today this phenomenon is called "nonlocality." If one changes, then the other changes with it. David Bohm (a student of Einstein), probably the most advanced quantum physicist, developed a theory with which one can fully describe all unusual quantum phenomena: “Thanks to the quantum potential, a kind of information field, and the implicit order of the Universe, everything is closely related to each other. ".

Dr. Stephen Wolinsky has developed a kind of synthesis of quantum physics and psychological / spiritual phenomena: the so-called quantum psychology. With its help, thousands of people every year learn how to purposefully help themselves. The basis here is the same deep understanding of the connectedness of all things and beings.

In 2006, an interesting American documentary film about the provisions of quantum physics appeared in German cinemas - “The Power of Thought. What do we know about this? " Independent filmmakers William Arntz, Betsy Chassie and Mark Visant have interviewed many renowned scientists such as David Albert, professor and director of Columbia University (author of Quantum Mechanics and Experience), John Hagelin, professor and director of Maharishi University (more than a hundred publications on quantum theory), Dr. Michael Ledvis, professor at the Irish College of Maineus, etc. The idea of ​​this film is that we must change our thinking and give a chance to manifest a picture of the world, where there is connection. In addition, the film shows that we are the creators of our universe: the world in which we live is a mirror of our own ideas. This means that if we believe in a world in which everyone is separated from each other, then we live in such a world. If we believe in a telepathic connection, then more and more often we are faced with phenomena that indicate the existence of this connection.

For this reason, at the very beginning of the book, I recommended that you not trust strange phenomena, but at the same time remain open to them and investigate them. The solution is not to conquer emerging doubts and disbelief. I even recommend that you study these feelings and states in more detail. When we find out that, in fact, he wants to tell us our doubt, then we better understand it, accept and can do something. This makes us feel more confident. As we become aware of these interactions between people, we become even more open to telepathic phenomena. In the end, we can feel in which areas of life we ​​become freer when we no longer place ourselves at the disposal of a particular system or feeling. The doubts of other people affect us in the same way, control our feelings when we come into contact with them.

In the "family constellations" that have become famous throughout Germany and many other countries mainly due to the therapeutic work of Bert Hellinger, hundreds of thousands of people from all over the world have experiences in which one can feel the emotions of another person, replacing him in the constellation. When someone participates in the constellation as a substitute and represents an unknown person, this person feels that other people's feelings arise in him, as if by magic. When the “deputy” reports his feelings, the client of the constellation confirms that this actually coincides with the behavior and emotions of the person being replaced. Critics of family constellations immediately change their minds when they experience this phenomenon themselves. It is difficult to imagine this without experiencing it personally. Therefore, I will propose one simple experiment later. Meanwhile, there are already the first scientific confirmations of this discovery, for example, in Peter Schleter's work (2004) “Vertraute Sprache und ihre Entdeckung; Systemaufstellungen sind kein Zufallsprodukt - der empirische Nachweis "(" Familiar language and its discovery; systemic constellations are not a random product - empirical evidence "), or in the research work of Martin Kohlhauser and Friedrich Asslander (2005)" Organizationsaufstellungen evaluiert; Studie zur Wirksamkeit von Systemaufstellungen in Management und Beratung "(" Assessment of organizational constellations; study of the effectiveness of systemic constellations in management and consulting ").

Olaf Jacobsen

I no longer obey you. How to get rid of negative emotions and experiences by entering into a new relationship

May this book support all readers and readers in discovering more and more puzzle pieces and put them into one picture of a perfect universe.

Olaf Jacobsen is the founder of free constellations, seminar leader and psychological counselor. He has published four books and many articles on the topic of liberation from inner problems. Olaf Jacobsen has always been convinced that there is some simple solution to get rid of many of the unpleasant emotions that arise in us every day or throughout life. And now, finally, he was able to find this magic formula. It sounds like this: "I no longer obey you" or "I no longer give myself to this." How can this work? In this book, you will learn that every person has the ability and disposition to telepathy and empathy. You will learn how to properly use the magic spell proposed by the author to embed it in any area of ​​life and apply to any situation. You can easily recognize and get rid of feelings of dependence, fear of loss, negative influence, sexual disharmony, feelings of inferiority.

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Olaf Jacobsen

I no longer obey you. How to get rid of negative emotions and experiences by entering into a new relationship

May this book support all readers and readers in discovering more and more puzzle pieces and put them into one picture of a perfect universe.

Olaf Jacobsen is the founder of free constellations, seminar leader and psychological counselor. He has published four books and many articles on the topic of liberation from inner problems. Olaf Jacobsen has always been convinced that there is some simple solution to get rid of many of the unpleasant emotions that arise in us every day or throughout life. And now, finally, he was able to find this magic formula. It sounds like this: "I no longer obey you" or "I no longer give myself to this." How can this work? In this book, you will learn that every person has the ability and disposition to telepathy and empathy. You will learn how to properly use the magic spell proposed by the author to embed it in any area of ​​life and apply to any situation. You can easily recognize and get rid of feelings of dependence, fear of loss, negative influence, sexual disharmony, feelings of inferiority.

THANKS

Many people have played an important role in my life and encouraged me to experience a diverse range of feelings and emotions, which in turn is reflected in this book. If it were not for the numerous authors of various scientific and psychological works and articles, as well as teachers, experts and seminar leaders with whom I happened to communicate, I would not be able now to rely on this experience and form such a train of thought, which is presented here on the pages this book.

I thank my Jacqueline Schwindt for deep insight into my feelings, for her experiences that influenced my views, as well as for her affectionate and constructive criticism during the compilation of the book.

My thanks also go to the seminar participants who inspired me with their experiences and life stories with numerous examples, as well as the authors whose knowledge and wisdom I have the opportunity to quote.

In this regard, special thanks go to Klaus Mücke, who in his book “Where there is danger, there is salvation”, offers a treasury full of psychoactive sayings, which served as the source of my creativity.

I thank Mike Zimmermann (my sister at heart) and Monika Anna Mesner for the valuable guidance.

I thank Monika Unemann and all the Windpferd staff for their sensitive participation and support. Lecturer Sylvia Lujohan has always believed in me. Thank you very much for that too.

In conclusion, I say thank you to the Universe for all the balance and imbalance, and for the fateful set of circumstances, thanks to which I was able to intensively learn in life.

FOREWORD

Why exactly I got the task of writing this book, I do not know. However, I see that it was my life path that led me to this. Could it be something like a destination?

In fact, what is purpose? Is there something that defines us humans? Don't we have free will? What, then, is our experience, which we call "free will"?

Undoubtedly, I am a person who consciously goes my own way. And yet, looking back, every time I notice that my decisions coincide in an amazing way with the events around me. Could I have predicted this? Have I adjusted to my environment? Or was it all just pure "synchronicity"?

The person who picked up this book made a similar decision himself. And at the same time, there was no other way: it had to be so. Why and why - we will find out only later.

How about a solution such as no longer belonging to something? When we “want” it, it becomes our choice, which is gradually built into our life. It develops to such an extent that it becomes a permanent component of our behavior. We freely make decisions, and then we learn that they coincide in an amazing way with the world around us.

I wish all readers on their path in life more synchronicity and exciting experiences. Let the course of things unfold gradually and take shape like a universal mosaic. May we, as pieces of this puzzle, become more aware and see how everything in the world interacts closely with each other.

Olaf Jacobsen,

Karlsruhe, July 2006

Chapter 1. INCREDIBLE

Early this morning, I pulled out a card. It read: "The easiest way to the secret kingdom is through the gate of acceptance."

For me, the cards of the fairies of Marcia Cina Mager are an invaluable gift. Its wording is easy to accept. They open my true feelings and relax the pressure of my mind, they give me answers that I can immediately relate to my question or current life situation.

However, sometimes in life it can be very difficult to accept something. I hear my inner voice, which pushes me to accept what I have heard, read or experienced and integrate this experience, but this is exactly what I cannot do. I remember people who told me: “Hey, Olaf, you just need to accept it inside yourself, recognize what it is, love yourself, develop unconditional love, don't think about the future - live! Live now!" It didn't help. I felt that I was missing something.

Deep down, I have always been convinced that there is some simple solution for such cases. I understood that we humans can very easily get rid of many unpleasant emotions. And now I was finally able to find this magic spell. It sounds like this: "I no longer obey you," or "I no longer give myself to this." At first, it seems as if this proposal does not radiate love and acceptance. It sounds like isolation, but that's a mistake. The effect of this phrase depends on the inner position we use to pronounce it. If we direct it against someone, then it is bad for us. However, it leads to the miracle of liberation if we express it for the good of all. While reading this book, you will learn how to properly use this spell to embed it in any area of ​​life and apply to any situation.

This magic formula works immediately and can be used without any additional knowledge. We just say it out loud or mentally, and we already feel freer. How can this work? I have long observed and investigated the phenomenon of telepathic sensations in familial or "systemic, constellations." During this process, you can clearly feel that substitutes (people acting in other people's roles) are experiencing the emotions of the person being replaced. Among specialists, this is called "representational perception." I was able to understand that in our everyday life we ​​often unintentionally play substitute roles in relation to other people and, in this connection, slip into the perception of their feelings. We think these are our own feelings and we want to get rid of them. We believe that something is wrong with us and are fighting with ourselves. Or we confront those people who have caused these feelings in us, and we want to free ourselves from them.

Every day we experience intense role play: between parents and children, bosses and subordinates, teachers and students, doctor and patients, coach and athletes, therapist and client, leader and seminar participants, conductor and musicians, in pairs, between colleagues, politicians, and also between two groups, for example, between two football teams.

Many people have played an important role in my life and encouraged me to experience a diverse range of feelings and emotions, which in turn is reflected in this book. If it were not for the numerous authors of various scientific and psychological works and articles, as well as teachers, experts and seminar leaders with whom I happened to communicate, I would not be able now to rely on this experience and form such a train of thought, which is presented here on the pages this book.

I thank my Jacqueline Schwindt for deep insight into my feelings, for her experiences that influenced my views, as well as for her affectionate and constructive criticism during the compilation of the book.

My thanks also go to the seminar participants who inspired me with their experiences and life stories with numerous examples, as well as the authors whose knowledge and wisdom I have the opportunity to quote.

In this regard, special thanks go to Klaus Mücke, who in his book “Where there is danger, there is salvation”, offers a treasury full of psychoactive sayings, which served as the source of my creativity.

I thank Mike Zimmermann (my sister at heart) and Monika Anna Mesner for the valuable guidance.

I thank Monika Unemann and all the Windpferd staff for their sensitive participation and support. Lecturer Sylvia Lujohan has always believed in me. Thank you very much for that too.

In conclusion, I say thank you to the Universe for all the balance and imbalance, and for the fateful set of circumstances, thanks to which I was able to intensively learn in life.

FOREWORD

Why exactly I got the task of writing this book, I do not know. However, I see that it was my life path that led me to this. Could it be something like a destination?

In fact, what is purpose? Is there something that defines us humans? Don't we have free will? What, then, is our experience, which we call "free will"?

Undoubtedly, I am a person who consciously goes my own way. And yet, looking back, every time I notice that my decisions coincide in an amazing way with the events around me. Could I have predicted this? Have I adjusted to my environment? Or was it all just pure "synchronicity"?

The person who picked up this book made a similar decision himself. And at the same time, there was no other way: it had to be so. Why and why - we will find out only later.

How about a solution such as no longer belonging to something? When we “want” it, it becomes our choice, which is gradually built into our life. It develops to such an extent that it becomes a permanent component of our behavior. We freely make decisions, and then we learn that they coincide in an amazing way with the world around us.

I wish all readers on their path in life more synchronicity and exciting experiences. Let the course of things unfold gradually and take shape like a universal mosaic. May we, as pieces of this puzzle, become more aware and see how everything in the world interacts closely with each other.

Olaf Jacobsen,

Clemens Kyuubi, author of popular science books and director of many acclaimed documentaries, for example about reincarnation (Living Buddha), in his film On the Road to Another Dimension and in the book of the same name, along with frequent quackery, also noted many miracles that he experienced during his trips to famous healers and shamans. The Kyuubi itself is already a great miracle, as it was inexplicably healed from paralysis with a transverse spinal cord injury.

Authors, recognized by hundreds of thousands of readers, include the Dalai Lama (Nobel Peace Prize laureate and author of The Ways to Happiness), Dr. Joseph Murphy (The Power of Your Subconscious), Stephen Hawking (The World in a Nutshell), Berbel Mor ("Orders from the Universe"), Torvald Detlefsen ("Destiny as a Chance"), Ken Wilber ("Eros, Cosmos, Logos"), Lao Tzu ("Tao Te Ching"), Eckhart Tolle ("The Power of the Moment Now" ), among other things, they write about the unity of the world and report on telepathic experiences and knowledge available to all living beings. These can only be explained by the unity of all that exists.

Joachim Bauer, professor of psychoneuroimmunology (author of the book Why I Feel What You Feel), talks about the existence of mirror neurons in the brain, which are responsible for the fact that we perceive other (present) people through the phenomenon of resonance and thus we can learn to maintain and develop these skills. These extremely curious brain cells were discovered by a renowned international research group led by Italian scientist Giacomo Risolatti and brain researcher William Hutchison.

The film trilogy "The Matrix" caused a huge resonance among millions of people. It is about the interconnectedness of all living beings. Three films evoke ideas about what can happen if this relationship is known, accepted, precisely studied, if it is managed for personal purposes. After a long struggle, peace comes at a moment when the protagonist of the story, Neo, fully recognizes and admits connection and unity with all people, that is, even with his worst enemy, Agent Smith ("The easiest way to the secret kingdom leads through the gate of acceptance").

When I saw the first part of the film in the cinema with my girlfriend, I strongly identified with the main character. When the movie ended, I walked out of the theater feeling that I could influence my environment (matrix). When we approached the car, which had a central door locking system, I internally imagined how to open the driver's door, but the other door remains closed. Indeed, it happened “by accident”, because my friend “out of forgetfulness”, while I was opening the car door, pulled the handle of her door and thereby intervened in the central locking mechanism. Thus, the second door remained closed.

Scientists and quantum physicists have long known about the phenomenon of the interconnectedness of everything in the universe. Christian Thomas Kohl, a political scientist, quotes experimental physicist Anton Zeilinger in his book Buddhism and Quantum Physics: the qualities of one particle affect the qualities of others and immediately entail their corresponding changes. This is true regardless of how far these particles are from each other. Einstein called this process "ghostly distant influence", today this phenomenon is called "nonlocality." If one changes, then the other changes with it. David Bohm (a student of Einstein), probably the most advanced quantum physicist, developed a theory with which one can fully describe all unusual quantum phenomena: “Thanks to the quantum potential, a kind of information field, and the implicit order of the Universe, everything is closely related to each other. ".

Dr. Stephen Wolinsky has developed a kind of synthesis of quantum physics and psychological / spiritual phenomena: the so-called quantum psychology. With its help, thousands of people every year learn how to purposefully help themselves. The basis here is the same deep understanding of the connectedness of all things and beings.

In 2006, an interesting American documentary film about the provisions of quantum physics appeared in German cinemas - “The Power of Thought. What do we know about this? " Independent filmmakers William Arntz, Betsy Chassie and Mark Visant have interviewed many renowned scientists such as David Albert, professor and director of Columbia University (author of Quantum Mechanics and Experience), John Hagelin, professor and director of Maharishi University (more than a hundred publications on quantum theory), Dr. Michael Ledvis, professor at the Irish College of Maineus, etc. The idea of ​​this film is that we must change our thinking and give a chance to manifest a picture of the world, where there is connection. In addition, the film shows that we are the creators of our universe: the world in which we live is a mirror of our own ideas. This means that if we believe in a world in which everyone is separated from each other, then we live in such a world. If we believe in a telepathic connection, then more and more often we are faced with phenomena that indicate the existence of this connection.

For this reason, at the very beginning of the book, I recommended that you not trust strange phenomena, but at the same time remain open to them and investigate them. The solution is not to conquer emerging doubts and disbelief. I even recommend that you study these feelings and states in more detail. When we find out that, in fact, he wants to tell us our doubt, then we better understand it, accept and can do something. This makes us feel more confident. As we become aware of these interactions between people, we become even more open to telepathic phenomena. In the end, we can feel in which areas of life we ​​become freer when we no longer place ourselves at the disposal of any particular system or feelings. The doubts of other people affect us in the same way, control our feelings when we come into contact with them.

In the "family constellations" that have become famous throughout Germany and many other countries mainly due to the therapeutic work of Bert Hellinger, hundreds of thousands of people from all over the world have experiences in which one can feel the emotions of another person, replacing him in the constellation. When someone participates in the constellation as a substitute and represents an unknown person, this person feels that other people's feelings arise in him, as if by magic. When the “deputy” reports his feelings, the client of the constellation confirms that this actually coincides with the behavior and emotions of the person being replaced. Critics of family constellations immediately change their minds when they experience this phenomenon themselves. It is difficult to imagine this without experiencing it personally. Therefore, I will propose one simple experiment later. Meanwhile, there are already the first scientific confirmations of this discovery, for example, in Peter Schleter's work (2004) “Vertraute Sprache und ihre Entdeckung; Systemaufstellungen sind kein Zufallsprodukt - der empirische Nachweis "(" Familiar language and its discovery; systemic constellations are not a random product - empirical evidence "), or in the research work of Martin Kohlhauser and Friedrich Asslander (2005)" Organizationsaufstellungen evaluiert; Studie zur Wirksamkeit von Systemaufstellungen in Management und Beratung "(" Assessment of organizational constellations; study of the effectiveness of systemic constellations in management and consulting ").

I myself have familiarized myself with and investigated this phenomenon in my experimental group. We set up for Jacqueline. Some of the participants put themselves at her disposal. Her task was to take one after the other three different internal positions in relation to the deputies.

Position 1: “I have nothing to do with what is expressed in the feelings and behavior of the deputies. I do not need it".

Position 2: “How do I know what appears here? How does this relate to me? What does it reflect in me? "

Position 3: “Everything is somehow connected with me. I accept everything. The deputies can show me everything, fully reflect me and my unconscious. "

Jacqueline could freely choose in what order to say these phrases and internally occupy these positions for a while. She did not tell anyone when she changed her internal position. However, in the course of the constellation, we could clearly see at what point she was tuning into a different position, because the behavior of the deputies clearly changed. In the end, we could even say when and what point of view Jacqueline took, and she confirmed it.

In the first position, the deputies stayed from each other rather at a certain distance. In the second position, they were in more contact, exchanged thoughts and talked to each other. In third position, they were kind, some hugged, they felt good and balanced.

In the next experiment with another person, at the first position, the deputies showed few signs of a problem, at the second position their number increased, and when the customer of the constellation took the third position, the problem with all its painful symptoms was fully expressed in all substitutes.

American Pete Sanders in his work "Guide to Supersensory Perception" tells about one of the participants in his seminars. He had to intuitively perceive the woman who was sitting opposite him. She had the task of thinking about three different life situations, without first telling the content of her thoughts. At first, the woman felt love for her little daughter. Then she thought about her professional activities as a lawyer. In conclusion, she recalled how she helped her husband in preparing for political elections. After that, the participant of the experiment said the following: “At first, in my mind I heard a lullaby and a soft voice, which seemed to be talking to a child. Then I had the feeling that my mind was busy with legal matters. At the end, I heard the following phrase: “My husband is obliged to have information about who occupies a key position in the White House!” “It was obvious: the woman influenced the thoughts of another participant with her thoughts.

Thanks to physical experiments, science has established the presence of the following interaction: how a quantum particle appears before us, what image it takes, depends on how it is observed. The same is true for family constellations: how substitutes behave in our constellations, what form the constellation takes, is determined by the internal attitude we observe it with. Now I will transfer this also to our everyday life: what we encounter in life depends on the inner attitude from which we observe it and, thus, influence it. Isn't this a revolutionary thought? A thought that is consistently highlighted in many spiritual books and films. Now we have a chance to purposefully apply this knowledge. I will take a few steps along this path with you.

Bruce Lipton, American cell biologist and professor of medicine, was awarded the Best Books Award 2006 for the best book in the Natural Science category, Biology of Beliefs. Intelligente Zellen "(" The biology of faith. Smart cells "). He describes how all his research, experiments and discoveries led him to the conviction that the vitality of a cell is determined not by its genes, but by the physical and energetic influences of its environment. Cells are mini-creatures that cooperate with each other, learn from each other, and unite. The purpose of their relationship is to become even smarter, more difficult and, thus, create an even more successful organism. Therefore, they need information from the outside, that is, they are influenced by external factors. Bruce Lipton's assessment of cell membrane function, along with the discoveries of quantum physics, forms the scientific basis of my book, and also explains why the magic formula "I am no longer at your disposal" works so well. In fact, at a certain cellular level, everything is interconnected with each other and influences each other.

If we humans accept this position, this new paradigm, we can change the world much faster and more efficiently. After all, we will no longer hope for changes outside, we will begin to change ourselves and our internal attitudes. Otherwise, we will be able to see what surrounds us. And you will see how the world will react accordingly, and things will start to change much faster than we could imagine before. Even in the case when we simply question our beliefs and opinions that we had until now (that is, we move from position 1 to position 2), the reaction of our environment is already beginning to change. So the Universe feels that we have become more correct to observe ourselves.

The more people practice this interpenetrating understanding, the more intense their interaction becomes. There are over forty scientific papers on the Maharishi effect (wwwtmkonstanzde). They confirm that a large group of people meditating can significantly reduce the crime rate in the city, country and around the world. The number of meditating group members should be at least one percent of the population of the city or country to which the positive influence is directed. Each time such a group meditated, there was a sharp decrease in the crime rate (for example, there were fewer murders, robberies, rapes, hostilities). So the more a new congruent understanding spreads, the more all-encompassing it will become. In times of great natural disasters and covert terrorist activities, this can be an excellent tool for balancing vibrations.

Realizing this deeper

Blaise Pascal, physicist, mathematician and philosopher of the 7th century already knew: “Since all things are cause and effect, conditioned and conditional, direct and mediated, and all are connected by an intangible thread that wraps around the most distant and most varied, I do not find knowledge possible parts without knowing the whole, just as I do not find it possible to know the whole without knowing its individual parts. "